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How to co-parent successfully during the holidays

On Behalf of | Nov 28, 2022 | Child Custody And Visitation |

The holiday season is a special time of year, but the holidays can be stressful for many people in Phoenix. The pressure to host the “perfect” holiday get-togethers, complicated relationships with relatives, and the time and expense involved in traveling out of state — these are examples of the challenges many people face around holidays like Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas and New Year’s Eve.

Being divorced and co-parenting your children with your ex can be another stressor. But with a proper child custody agreement in place, you and your children can enjoy the holidays with a minimum of hassle and emotional trauma. If you are currently going through divorce, arranging your holiday plans in advance should be one of the things to do while figuring out your overall custody arrangement.

Your holiday plans should be more detailed than “we’ll work it out when the time comes.” That is not enforceable in court and can lead to fights. Instead, the plan should lay out in detail things like which parent the kids will spend each holiday with, and when and where the handoffs will occur.

Reaching a consensus about holiday custody

Not that working out a plan both sides can agree to is a simple task. In negotiations, try to set a balance between listening to your ex’s point of view without sacrificing your parental rights. Digging in your heels — or being a martyr — will not serve your children’s best interests, the most important consideration under Arizona child custody law. Mediation might help you and your ex work out a practical and sustainable arrangement that is fair to everyone involved.

With a plan that both parents can live with, disputes over custody are unlikely to disrupt your holidays. Hopefully, it also means a happy and memorable holiday season.